Today’s affirmation: I am a priority in my own life.
It’s been one week of my journey to love myself and so far I’m loving the experiment. Only 51 more weeks to go.
However, loving myself also means loving my family since they’re an integral part of me and my life. Since it’s Sunday I’ve got kids to bathe and lunches to pack and laundry to fold while watching Project Runway so here are 3 things I learned this week about loving myself and self-care.
1. Get checked out. If your body feels off, if your moods are unstable, if something just doesn’t feel right in your head and your body go to the doctor. Be it a family doc, a naturopath, a therapist, someone. These professionals spend a lot of time and a lot of money to learn how to best help people. Let them help you.
And advocate for yourself. If one isn’t listening to you or taking you seriously, find someone else. YOU are important. Your body and mind are important. No one’s going to fight for you but you so do it. Get checked out.
2. Be in today. This one is hard but stay with me. There’s some old adage that says something like “if you’re depressed you’re living in the past. If you’re anxious you’re living in the future. If you’re at peace you’re living in the present.” Don’t let what happened yesterday or what might happen tomorrow distract you from where you are and who you are today.
Take laundry for example.
You look at your laundry pile and think, “I should do that today.” Then ask yourself, “Am I going to do it today?” If the answer is yes then be in the moment and start some laundry. If the answer is a sincere no, then stop thinking about it today. No sense in filling your brain space with guilt and shame when there’s joy and laughter to experience. Be in today.
3. Talk to yourself the way you talk to others. If your kid or BFF makes a mistake do you tell them, “OMG you’re so stupid”? No? Didn’t think so. Don’t say those things about yourself either, okay? It takes just as much energy and effort to believe something positive about yourself as it does to think something negative about yourself. Put your energy and effort into thinking you’re an awesome person because, spoiler alert, you are.
Empowering Words: Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind. – Dr. Seuss
This is days 6 and 7 of my 2018 series “The Year I Learn to Love Myself.” You can get the lowdown on the series here on my day one post.