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I Told The Negative Voice In My Head To Shut Up

I Told The Negative Voice In My Head to Shut UpI struggle a lot with negative self-talk. I think we all do, right? The voices in our head tell us we’re not a good parent, we don’t play with our kids enough, our house isn’t good enough, etc.

It’s something I’m working on and recently I made some progress. Not in a conventional way necessarily, but progress is progress.

I’ve wanted blue hair for a while. I’ve been sporting a bright red summer faux-hawk for a few years and I love the look. I’ve had red hair for a few years and I love that, too. It is not at all a natural color so it’s obvious that I chose to do something “drastic” with my hair.

Still, though, because it’s red, it’s kinda sorta almost a natural hair color so it doesn’t seem too dramatic.

Blue hair, though? That’s making a statement. A statement that a negative voice in my head said I couldn’t do.

“A mom of two toddlers does not dye her hair blue.”

That’s what the voice has been telling me for months. And I listened.

Until recently.

toni hammer blue hairThat’s right. I dyed my hair blue. And I love it. LOVE. IT.

I love it for a few reasons. One, because it looks amazing. Two, it brings out the blue in my eyes. Three, it means I finally told at least one negative voice in my head to shut the hell up and let me do my thing.

There are no rules or standards for what a mother can look like. I don’t have to wear frumpy clothes. I don’t have to wear heels. I don’t have to wear make-up. I can have seventeen piercings, forty tattoos, and shave my head if I want to. It doesn’t change who I am or what I am.

It does, however, change how I feel.

And this blue hair makes me feel incredible.

If a voice in your head is telling you that you can’t do something simply because you’re a mom, tell the voice to back off and go do it. Now. Right this second. I’ll be here waiting to hear about your results.

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2 thoughts on “I Told The Negative Voice In My Head To Shut Up

  1. Becky

    This post really spoke to me as I too pushed down my negative voice yesterday and dyed my hair purple. I love it!! The negative voice is still around from time to time when I catch myself in the mirror but I’m working on it. Thanks again… I’ll think of you when I hear the negative voice again.

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